love? Bianca reached for another tissue as she repeated the hollow statement that Eric mumbled to her last night: “I love you but I’m not  in  love with you”.  She unglued her eyes from the floor and said angrily, “What the hell does that mean – I love you but I’m not  in  love with you?” How was she supposed to respond to a cryptic message like that?                  Mute story We often loosely use the word “love” and we mix being in love with actually loving someone. Being in love with someone can stem from infatuation, possessiveness, and obsession.  You both talk, hold hands, hug kisses and develop surface feelings. You feel alone when your partner is not around you. You crave and yearn for them to be with you all the time.        Law story Loving someone, on the other hand, goes beyond the physical presence. You desire to see them grow, you see past their flaws, you see opportunities of building into each other and together; you motivate, encourage and